Denisa Nesvačilová: Work Over Privacy & Performing

Like blind to the violin. They called me from TV Joj and told me that they had a role for me. That they’ll send me the script to read and we’ll meet for camera rehearsals. When we met, the whole crew was there and I heard: You already have the role. We have already chosen you. Now we are just fine-tuning the details. I have no idea how and why they chose me.

I would say that it started showing itself from the beginning, but from the fifth episode onwards it starts to become sharp. She is not a completely healthy person. It was quite difficult to play her, but it was a challenge. I like these acting laboratories, when I have to poke around and reach for something that even a person doesn’t want to reach for, because they don’t want to know if it’s in them. But everyone has it in them. Everyone can kill, everyone can hurt.

It is, but you don’t want to dig around and find that there is an even darker depth somewhere than you thought. But you will learn an awful lot about yourself. Thanks to this, I can try things that are even “illegal” in front of the camera. And I really enjoy it. I prefer mentally challenged characters to sweet romantic souls. I guess I enjoy suffering a little.

That they are much more sophisticated than the Czechs. We have different men. When they are really pretty, they know it well, they have a bit of an ego. But they are often beer drinkers. They are not gorgeous, elegant men. We don’t have that many. I am aware of the last person I really perceived this way, and that is František Němec, but he is eighty years old today. Maybe David Švehlík, but he’s not quite the testosterone type, like, for example, Milo Král, who you believe has three wives and could easily have two more. In the Czech Republic, I apologize to all my colleagues, men are a bit unkempt and unkempt. They exercise little and drink a lot.

I don’t know at all. It doesn’t happen to me at all. It seems to me that they have to dig a little. I think it requires definitely shifted moral boundaries and conscience. I don’t know how they sleep with it or how they look at themselves in the mirror, but I have a feeling that they don’t think they’re doing anything wrong. They can somehow justify it. However, for me it is sick and I would never want to participate in it again. Despite loyalty, the train is not moving for me. Otherwise, it’s humiliating for everyone involved.

I’m playing a show about that topic, and it’s out! in the Radek Brzobohatý Theatre, so I probably can’t think about it anymore. At least not that different from my character. I had to defend her opinions internally.

At that moment, our conversation is interrupted by an unexpected situation. Denisa notices a man with a white cane trying to find his way around the shopping center where we are having a conversation in a cafe. She immediately jumped up and asked with a smile, “Hello, do you want to help?” The man accepted with thanks and the actress pointed him in the right direction. She returned in a moment as if nothing out of the ordinary had happened.

No one really had to guide me to this. How many times do I see situations where people have their eyes buried in their cellphones and do not intervene, no matter what is happening. This annoys me immensely. They are exactly the ones who, when they need help, shout loudly that no one has helped them and that they are victims.

Polyamorists are divided on what is fidelity or partner love, and what is intimacy. When you marry someone, the others can no longer be your spouse, so one is always superior. But they alternate between each other and love is for everyone – just because they sleep with someone else doesn’t mean they don’t love their partner. I don’t understand that at all.

This is exactly the theme of our show. I don’t know the answer to that. I find it absolutely disgusting. I couldn’t live with that. And if someone asked me to, never. But there are those who, trying not to lose their partner, nod to it. And then he suffers. Always sooner or later someone starts to suffer or get jealous. I can’t imagine it lasting ten years in peace. But above all, it is impudence to ask someone for that at all.

Of course I don’t want to own anyone. When the other wants to leave, he will leave. I’m not crazy about it. That’s life. But for someone to tell me: Look, I’ll have two more for you and you can go out for coffee together and it’ll be fine, at least you’ll share the housework, that’s not for me.

Let them keep it, but those cultures have it based on millennial traditions and it makes some sense to them. It’s not just a fad. For example, Louis XVI had admitted mistresses, it was known about them, but it was probably because he had power and the times favored relaxed morals.

So she also took turns? I don’t get it. It wouldn’t be for me, I don’t really understand it. It seems to me that people don’t know what to do anymore. Taking good care of one relationship and one partnership is enough work and I can’t imagine that anyone is capable enough to have two or more partnerships and give everyone what they need. Even one partnership is sometimes too many. It’s a lot of work on one relationship.

We’ve been together for almost two years. We like each other, it’s nice, but sometimes challenging because he comes from a completely different world than me. We had to, or still have to, set the rules of communication. Being a lawyer, it is very difficult to convince him.

I had to explain to him that we are dealing with the situation as partners, that we are not in a courtroom. And that I’m an actress, so sometimes I cry, even if there’s no logical reason for it. It doesn’t mean I’m blackmailing him, I’m just worried about something. They don’t have to tell me logical arguments that I know. Just give me a hug. We had to sort things out, but it’s fun. Now we have nice responsibilities – apartment renovation, moving.

Definitely. He is truly a partner and I am extremely proud of him. Incredibly smart – I admire how successful he is. They say he’s really good at what he does, he works at a very high level, but I don’t get it at all. Just recently, his work colleagues praised him to me. It’s a shame that I didn’t notice him a few years earlier, when he occasionally called. I didn’t notice him at the time, which is a shame, because I might have saved myself some disappointment. But the real thing in life is worth waiting for.

He knew I was an actress, he just had no idea I was so prominent in my generation. Wherever we go, even abroad, we immediately run into Czechs, who often know who I am. He was surprised by that. Otherwise, he didn’t get his bearings in show business, because he’s not that interested. At first I thought it was strange how I could live with someone like that. Now I think it’s great, he treats everyone the same, famous or not. He can keep my feet on the ground.

It is. And above all, they respect me for other things than inviting me to the premiere. We don’t even go to premieres. I play a lot, and when I have free time, I want to be with him and spend quality time, not somewhere where they take pictures of us holding hands or not, and evaluate whether we are into each other. Who cares.

I’m glad someone likes me, but I don’t need someone patting me on the back. What annoys me is the rudeness of people. Recently in Italy someone shouts a meter away from me: Jesus, look, it’s her! In moments like these, I would prefer to collapse. I don’t have a problem with it if people ask politely, but this rant scares me. I feel awkward and prefer to quickly disappear into the crowd. Or you are sitting in a restaurant and someone next to you is talking about you. I tell them: I hear you. Or they’ll pounce on you in the street. You are tired from the exam and a stranger starts reaching for you. Sometimes it feels over the top. Otherwise, I respect the fans, but it would require more empathy. We are also only human, we are not public property.

I got a strange message yesterday. Michal and I read it and he said: Maybe someone is inviting you to a swingers party. Bizarre things happen sometimes because people are confused by the current world and don’t know where the boundaries are. They hide on Instagram behind other people’s profiles. Sometimes I enjoy it when someone writes something inappropriate to me, I calmly reply that he has a nice photo with his wife and children and if they will also come with us. I usually don’t answer, but when I’m in a bad mood I can be sharp.

Yes, I always did that. I don’t need to share privacy. I think my work should speak for me, not the show. And just as the world is dangerous and borderless, different than it was thirty years ago, I don’t want anyone to know where I live or what hotel I sleep in. I often share things a few days late. It’s safer. Sometimes I share something personal, for example that I received a flower from Michal. But otherwise I save money with it.

Yes, the musical is still playing, now we have the last season at the Kalich Theater. It’s a really beautiful story and people love it because we put our heart into it. He really comes to it repeatedly and I’m really sad that it’s going to end this year. I like nostalgia, the world that was still somehow ordered.

Recently, my condition has improved significantly, so I hope for a long-term remission. However, there were periods that were very demanding. When I talk to the makeup artists beforehand, they know which products I can’t use, so we often work out what they can apply on me and how to help me. There were also times when some make-up artists were unpleasant. It depends on the people, but I have to knock that everything is fine now.

When stress comes, of course something manifests somewhere. It’s always worse in winter, without sun, atopic sufferers suffer. I think that these things should be talked about, because it happened to me that someone wrote something nasty about my appearance on Instagram. But I started talking about it and many girls with atopic eczema contacted me. It is a widespread disease, a huge disease of civilization. Unfortunately, it is incurable, it is treated with corticoids, which is not ideal.

Chinese medicine. I go to acupuncture and herbal phytotherapy. It’s totally cool. However, it requires a lot of time. It won’t get better in a week. The body must gradually be cleansed. Every time I got sick after that, it was a little milder. It’s gradually getting better. It helps me a lot. Maybe the sun too. And identify which products are harmful and which are not.

Roztančené divadlo awaits me in the Municipal Theater in Mladá Boleslav. It is a theatrical equivalent of StarDance, which takes place only one evening. I have already started training, it is very prestigious. I am competing for the Kalich Theater. We’ve drawn chacha and quickstep, so I’m a little panicked.

Yes. We do two-, three-, four-hour training sessions, we try every day. I have slow feet, I have found that ballroom dancing is sometimes completely against the logic of body coordination. Knees, ankles, hips, everything on different sides of the world. I would need dances where you sit more with the cake. Now that’s a massacre.

Tickets are on sale so people can come and cheer, I’m sure it’s going to be a great night. There will be an expert jury consisting of actors, TV presenters, it should be mainly fun. That’s what awaits me now and I’m really looking forward to it because I wanted to do StarDance. For now, I’m only doing Roztančené divadlo, but maybe someday when the show comes back on TV, I’ll be ready. I’m here, I’m going to get better, my butt is going to be smaller and my legs are going to be faster!