Best friend
“Six months after the break-up, his best friend called me. He wanted to have coffee and he asked how things were going. He also offered to help me if I needed it. When he asked about my desire to have children, I brushed it off a bit. I did acknowledge that time was starting to tick and I joked: ‘All it takes is one pleasant evening in a pub’. To my great surprise, he offered to become a sperm donor if I wanted to. Of course I had to be here. think about it for a while.
I was out: why not? I always really wanted to be a mother and this meant I no longer needed a man. I agreed under strict conditions and became pregnant by him. Since we are in the same group of friends, it is a secret and no one knows it is his. Although there is sometimes a lot of speculation.”
Happy
“When I’m sitting on the couch in the evening, my child (now 8) is sleeping, I have a glass of wine in one hand and my cat on my lap, then I think: why should I even start dating men? Maybe a second cat will come along, but that’s about it. I’m super happy at the moment.
In retrospect, I think he simply found life with a sick wife too hard. My ex has been single for a long time and now has a girlfriend. The only thing I’m thinking is: will he leave her too if she gets sick? I hope not, because no one deserves that.”
Call ‘Over and out’
Ending a love relationship is not easy for anyone, but some people make it very difficult. Have you been mercilessly ghosted, or did you meet your girlfriend on a dating app? Did your ex leave your shared home without telling you, or did she leave it to her best friend to tell you that you had broken up? Or did a new partner even appear to be ready the next day?
You are certainly not the only one who has been dumped in an unthinkable way. Shared sorrow is half sorrow, so we would like to hear your story. Email a short summary to reader@linda.nl stating ‘Over and out’ including name, telephone number and age. Don’t worry, we’ll post your story anonymously.
This article was previously published on LINDA.nl
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