How to: The receiving partner lies on their back and brings their legs up over their head. (It’s helpful if that person is particularly flexible!) The receiver should try to get their butt as high in the air as possible before the giver lowers themselves onto the receiver. In this position, the giver can also lean down and stimulate the receiver’s genitals for added sensation.
Benefits: If you believe that more is more, the Pile Driver move is for you. “This position can be more intense because of the angle and the depth of penetration,” says Needle. “[The giving partner should] start with gentle, shallow thrusts, allowing the receiving partner to adjust and avoid discomfort.” You’ll also want to use a lot of lube in this position for obvious reasons.
And while the illustration shows the receiver’s hips fully vertical, feel free to tweak this position to suit you and your partner’s specific needs. “Make slight adjustments in angles. The top partner can adjust their stance or their height, while the bottom partner may slightly lower and tilt their hips to find the best angle,” says Needle.
For a tip: Don’t let the name scare you, but just know you should stretch before trying this advanced anal sex position. “It does require significant flexibility and strength, especially from the partner on the bottom,” says Needle. “Don’t do it if you have injuries because this position places pressure on the neck, shoulder, and back.” To help relieve some of that pressure and provide better stability and comfort for the receiving partner, she also suggests putting a pillow or cushion under the neck and shoulders.
And one last piece of sex advice: “Communicate about the pace, depth, and pressure, and just make sure you’re all comfortable,” Needle says. “Take breaks if you need it.” (Always a good idea!)
