Kerry White’s Journey: Overcoming Age and Perimenopause to Become a Mother
At 48, yoga teacher and wellness coach Kerry White embarked on a journey that would redefine her concept of family. With the odds against her, White pursued her lifelong dream of motherhood through in vitro fertilization (IVF), even as she entered perimenopause. Her inspiring journey, shared on The Irish Times Women’s Podcast with Róisín Ingle, offers a poignant look at the hopes, challenges, and joys of modern motherhood.
Chasing a Dream Against the Clock
White’s desire to have a family was deeply rooted in her upbringing, shaped around the traditional fairy tale narrative of a perfect nuclear family. However, life took unexpected turns, leaving her facing a critical choice: pursue her dream or live with the regret of unfulfilled potential.
The Decisive Choice
At the age of 48 and just beginning perimenopause, White decided she couldn’t afford to wait any longer. Determined to have a child, she began exploring IVF clinics both domestically and internationally. “If I didn’t try, I would have lived with regret until the end of my days,” she says in the podcast.
Embracing Double Donation
White’s path to motherhood was marked by choices that many might view as daunting—she opted for double donation, meaning both the egg and sperm were donated. This choice came after navigating various clinics and weighing her options.
A Triumph in the Heart of Russia
After her first attempt at a clinic in Ireland did not yield results, White turned to Russia. It was at a clinic in St. Petersburg that she succeeded on her second try, culminating in the birth of her daughter Freya under the glow of her 50th birthday.
Challenging Stereotypes and Choosing Donors
White’s story paves the way for changing perceptions about motherhood. Despite her age, she was treated just like any other patient at the clinic. She also had to navigate the process of selecting egg and sperm donors, a choice that is deeply personal yet nuanced.
Changing Paths: From Wellness to Support
Embracing her new role as a mother, White found her focus shifting. Her work now centers on supporting other women in their pursuit of motherhood, each with their unique challenges and dreams.
A Call to Engage
Kerry White’s journey is a testament to resilience, perseverance, and the power of personal choice. Her story invites reflection on the evolving concept of family and reproductive health. You can hear more from Kerry White and her inspiring tale by tuning in to The Irish Times Women’s Podcast featuring Róisín Ingle. Dive into the conversation, explore her experiences, and gain insights into the realities of modern motherhood.