Hallo,
I put in a huge mess. I was in a (fresh) but great relationship until last week. Everything fit! We had full trust in each other, felt like each other, laughed a lot together without doing a lot of effort and creating wonderful memories within a very short time. I was never really in love with her, but I still felt completely comfortable with her.
I went into the relationship because it really felt somewhere and, purely logically, were all the basics for a relationship.
Last week, however, a switch suddenly flipped in my head, which said that all of this is not okay, I don’t feel enough for you and I have to end! (The situation is described in more detail in a previous question.)
Since then there has been a crisis. Of course I have dealt with absolutely everything with her, but after hours of conversations we don’t come up with a clear result or not?
I no longer understand what is right and what is wrong. Again and again I come to the decision that it is definitely the right thing, because the basics are right and I feel with her, you don’t need more, right? The next moment my complete mood tips, nothing makes sense and the relationship is in the bucket.
I just don’t know what to do.
Deep in me, I know that it will be worth it because she is an incredibly great person, on the other hand I also think that it is unfair to her because I can’t say exactly whether I feel enough.