Is it possible to raise a child and educate him without school? How to organize study at home? Is it true that only the rich can do this? We understand the pros and cons of family education together with five families who decided on this experiment.
What is family education
In Russia, according to FZ-273, you can get education in two ways:
- In educational organizations;
- Outside educational organizations – family education and self-education.
Parents decide for themselves how to educate their children. Children in family education receive the same certificates as ordinary schoolchildren. They enter universities according to the same rules.
Family education can be started from grade 1, or at any time in any class, even in the middle of the school year. You can always go back to school or combine these forms of study.
Family teaching is often called home teaching. But according to the law, home (or home) education is when a teacher comes to a child’s home and conducts lessons with him, like in school. Such training is possible for medical reasons.
Why is it chosen
Five families told Znak.com about their family education experiences. Each of them chose this path for its own reason.
- Because of health. Two children of Natalia Serova from Tyumen were born deeply premature, at the 24th week of pregnancy. The boy weighed 1200 g and the girl 800 g. They had problems with speech and coordination of movements. By the age of 7, children lagged behind their peers in development, and psychologists did not recommend them to study in a general format. Children could concentrate for a maximum of 20-25 minutes. In addition, it is difficult to combine a rehabilitation program with the school schedule: massage, speech therapist, exercise therapy, injections. They immediately studied at home, now they are finishing 2nd grade.
- Bullying. The daughter of Natalia K. from Chelyabinsk switched to family education from the second half of the 7th grade. A number of unpleasant events led to this. The girl was often ill and missed classes a lot. In addition, she did not develop a relationship with the homeroom teacher. “One day my daughter came back from school after another illness with the phrase:“ If another bitch tells me something, I’ll take her… with a chair. ” This is how I found out that the class teacher practically organized the bullying of my daughter in order to get rid of the student who was lowering her class performance. And that my home girl can turn from a victim of school bullying into an aggressor, ”recalls Natalya.
- From-for equals. The teacher at school is guided by the average speed of mastering the material. This became the reason for the Muscovite Maxim Amelin to choose an alternative way of teaching his son by the 5th grade. “Danil grasps quickly, remembers well, and he was bored in the classroom. He assimilated the material faster than the average for the class, ”says Maxim. Another example of the “middle approach” is when the whole class is forced to answer for the misconduct of one student. “We could not explain to Danil why everyone is punished for the prank of one child. Why, if someone on the back desk was naughty, then Danil, together with the whole class, should stand. I don’t know how to explain this to either the child or myself, ”added Amelin.
- Because of the desire for freedom. Polina Nikitina from Yekaterinburg, even before the birth of her children, decided that they would not attend either kindergarten or school. “I wanted the children to retain their thirst for knowledge. So that both me and them have more freedom and fewer problems associated with visiting educational institutions: bullying in a team, equalization, the inability to change teachers, toxic interaction in parental chats, imposition of gender stereotypes and sexism, ”explained Polina. Now two of her children are in family education: a 7-year-old daughter and a 9-year-old son.
- Due to frequent travel. For some, family education is the only chance to learn. The family of Marina Klochkova has been living and traveling on a sailing yacht for 7.5 years with her two daughters – now they are 10 and 19 years old. “I am not a fan of distance learning, but for our lifestyle, this is the only way to educate children. Fortunately, with the development of technology, this form has become possible, ”says Marina.
How to organize studies
Teach your child yourself
Curricula and manuals from school or the Internet can help with this. You can choose any – Soviet, modern Russian or even foreign – programs.
Natalia K. from Chelyabinsk went this way. She received a curriculum at school and organized her studies at home.
The hardest part was with mathematics. Natalya drew up a preparation plan, writing down in her diary, one by one, what topic should be and what the result should be. It turned out that by the 7th grade, her daughter knew nothing about the greatest common divisor and the least common multiple. “I had to master the mathematics course practically from the fifth grade on my own. The daughter resisted, refused, tried to get sick as usual. I went freelancing, and my daily five-hour math was a matter of honor. We have covered the topic of quadratic equations twice, ”Natalya said.
The family studied Russian for two academic hours every day. “It turned out that we have a very talented girl. But before the exam, we got a new surprise: we had to write an essay on the painting, for which we were not ready. I had to call a genie from Google, draw up an essay plan, explain to a 14-year-old man which phrases to use if the picture was in dark colors, and which ones if in light ones. The essay was given a B, ”the woman shared.
Physics, chemistry, biology, geography, history and social studies in the family were studied in blocks: two to three weeks for each subject, with intermediate controls and independent ones.
Through online schools
These are schools where you can study over the Internet. Three of our heroes teach children through the Internet Lesson portal. The educational process goes like this:
- Video lessons and lectures are read by teachers, often teachers from universities, people with degrees, said Maxim Amelin.
- After the lecture, you need to take a test on the topic. Each is given a grade.
- There are homework assignments.
- There are tests: quarterly, annual.
They write essays on physical education, draw on fine arts, and then send photographs of the drawings to the teacher. “Minor items are kept to a minimum. On the one hand, the outlook is declining. On the other hand, I remember myself: what did IZO give me, music? I do not know. Singing in chorus? ” – says Amelin.
How to certify a child
Children in family education have the right to pass intermediate and state final certification at any school for free. Certification can also be passed remotely, through special services, but it will be paid.
A controversial issue is how often you need to pass the certification. The law permits not to pass attestation until grade 9. But those who wish can take tests at least every year to check the level of knowledge.
“We had a 30-question test in the first grade! Moreover, it is impossible to help the child and it is also impossible to spy on, as the curator is watching. It reminded me of university exams. But everything went well. We passed it perfectly, ”Natalya Serova shared.
Which is more expensive
Families differ in their estimates of the cost of school and out-of-school education – all individually.
- For Natalia K., the transfer of her daughter to family education did not lead to additional expenses. The family used textbooks issued by the school and materials purchased in advance: for fine arts, drawing, technology, as well as contour maps.
- Maxim Amelin believes that studying in an Internet school is cheaper than in a regular one. It is paid – 5,500 rubles per month. There are additional services for extra money, for example, a personal mentor or preparation for the exam. But in ordinary schools you also need to pay: buy school uniforms, school supplies, textbooks, teaching materials, and sometimes contribute funds “for the needs of the school.”
- Natalya Serova believes that family education is expensive. She pays 22 thousand rubles a month for each of her two children. This happens because of the extra classes and tutors. In addition to the online school, Natalia’s children go to English, go in for sports, music, mathematics, visit a speech therapist, and will soon begin to learn Chinese.
How to combine with work
Parents who choose family education for their children usually work from home.
Everyone has their own experience. Some children need a lot of supervision and help – this is especially true in elementary school. Others, being drawn in, cope with their studies on their own.
- “I had to postpone my career, I didn’t make much money on freelancing, but my relationship with my daughter improved during this difficult period,” Natalya K. shares. She worked with the child herself for a year, and then her daughter went to a new school.
- “At the beginning, we were busy. We did homework together in all subjects, checked everything. Now help is rarely needed, mostly control is needed, but this is normally combined with work. The wife takes care of the child, she works from home, ”says Maxim Amelin. He does not plan to return the child to a regular school.
- “The main burden is on the children themselves. They go through the school curriculum in the Internet school, do their homework themselves. I help them, I check. I work from home, it’s hard to combine, but it would be hundreds of times harder for me to take my children to school, ”Polina Nikitina is sure. She plans to teach this to children before graduation.
For and against
Freedom. The main plus of family learning, which our heroes named, is a more free approach to learning. You can learn at the speed and at the time that suits the student. You can also sleep a little longer, have a day off in the middle of the week and go somewhere.
Independence. From the first grade, the child relies only on himself – it will not work to cheat or spy. In addition, children learn to plan their time.
Focus is on the main thing. The material is given more densely, because the mother or teacher does not waste time to voice assessments or scold those who make noise. On average, it takes 3-5 hours a day to study with the children of our heroes. In addition, in online schools, at the beginning of each lesson, children are told where the knowledge that they will now receive will come in handy.
There are no conflicts. At home, no one offends the child for sure, he is not worried that someone has a cooler phone, there are no disputes with teachers and stereotypes from the series “a girl must” or “boys don’t dress like that.”
Everything is transparent. Parents mention a more transparent system of assessing the success of their children as one of the advantages. There are no favorites, overestimation or underestimation of ratings.
Socialization. This item triggers the main parental alarm. In family education, children do not have direct communication with classmates, there are no small life situations through which you learn to behave at school. This problem is solved by visiting circles and sections, walking in the yard and meeting with friends.
Discipline. Your child needs strong intrinsic motivation to learn. Without parental control, children can stop keeping notebooks, chatting during lessons.
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